Troubled by insecurity ?

Emotional insecurity sounds like a complex problem defined in a psychology book. But, only the name sounds complex.  It is a common happening, and appears all around… Wonder what it is?

It is what drives colleagues to take over team work, allowing no space for others to contribute. It also appears at workplace when one person talks through the length of a 1 hour meeting, making others wonder why they were invited to this meeting.

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It occurs when a visiting guest gives you a lengthy advice on how to cook well, and in the process also boasts about the superb dishes that she has specialized in. The conversation is also peppered with sprinkles of specific mistakes you should correct in your cooking.

On a more serious side, this insecurity inspires a silent war in households, on who has more control over the family. Control might mean anything…  from from deciding what to cook, whom to invite for a dinner… and who should marry whom.

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A person can live in peace when people around him respect his personal space and mind their own business. On the contrary, when another person suddenly decides that I am not capable of leading my life and his / her guidance is essential, it disturbs my peaceful existence.

So what drives someone to lovingly or forcefully make me do what they want? Reasons behind it are many … personal motives, dominance, jealousy, ignorance, stupidity etc… But the inspiration behind all these reasons is… insecurity!

Insecurity at office crops up when a co-worker fears that his talent would go unnoticed,  or that another person might become his superior, etc. Insecurity constantly plagues families, especially joint families. Insecurity that a daughter-in-law’s inexperience would ruin the family, insecurity that a mother-in-law’s dominance would destroy his / her freedom, insecurity that a neighbour might cook better than mine, insecurity that my younger cousins would end up earning more money than me, etc.

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When insecurity is mixed with pride, jealousy, selfishness etc.. it leads to more toxic behaviors like hatred and spite.

Humor is a gift that Nature bestowed only on humans. Similarly, insecurity is also unique to humans. Animals and birds are not capable of experiencing insecurity.

As I start understanding more about insecurity, it is evident that there are many insecurities within me… Where is the time to worry about why others trouble me, when all my time is spent in tacking and suppressing my own insecurities?

My only hope is that I will one day be confident of myself, and free of insecurities. From that day, I will not anything disrupt my peace of mind.

 

 

 

 

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The wide world outside

Girl’s education is fast becoming a reality everywhere in the Indian sub-continent. Atleast all metros and suburbs have a good girl to boy ratio in primary and elementary schools. Though we need a lot to be done to make education accessible to girls in all nook and corners of the country, a considerable ratio of girls are educated now.

The advantage this offers is girls and women can now read and write their regional language, they can understand news broadcasts, they watch TV or listen to radio, paving the way for awareness campaigns to reach them, etc.

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Our grandmothers had no source of outside news except from relatives and neighbours. But we have access to newspapers, magazines, TV, radio, cinemas etc. Starting from easy to use detergents to awareness campaigns for cancer prevention, there are many consumer items that can make a woman’s life easy and healthy.

Want to know how much your residence is worthy of int he current economy? Do not rely on chats with your neighbour for this, instead switch on your TV channel and there is so much information on the current land prices in your locality.

Is your child having difficulties in studies or games, check out the daily afernoon doctor Q & A Tv programmes or your regional women’s magazines for child related columns.

Do you run out of time trying to manage your work and your children, check out the Time management articles and tips in magazines and books.

Chances are that if you are a woman from the India reading this post, then you are well-informed and already access information available in print and digital media. Is your mother or grand mother or mother-in-law fond of family or local gossips… are you facing incessant problems because of this? A quick solution would be to turn their focus to cooking shows, or recipe books, or DIY-home remedies or DIY-beauty tips, etc. Play a local FM radio or TV in a place where they can hear it. Buy women’s magazines in your regional language and place it such that it grabs their attention.

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When members in a family get to know about happenings in the world, and discuss about things happening outside their known circle, it would reduce petty arguments and spats within the family. The more informed and aware the family members are, the more chances for financial and social progress of the family. And when this starts from the women of a family, it will definitely help the whole family.

 

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